Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Encouraging Healthy Habits

Children growing up in North America today are at risk of being the first generation in modern memory that will have a shorter life expectancy than their parents.

--Dr. David Katz, heart expert

The alarms have sounded. Health experts are greatly concerned about the overall health of our children and teenagers. They’re worried about how sedentary our kids have become. They’re concerned about our kids’ eating habits. They’re bothered that too many kids don’t get enough sleep. As a parent, it’s easy to become paralyzed by what the health experts are saying, especially since many kids seem to slip in and out of good health habits (while others seems to gravitate toward more bad health habits than good). Yet there are many things you can do to help your kids get on the right track and keep from sliding too far into bad health habits.

Tips for . . .

· all parents

o Recognize that health habits change constantly.

o Make health habits fun.

o Celebrate small successes.

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· parents with children ages birth to 5

o Encourage healthy habits from an early age.

o Do physical activities together.

o Be patient during power struggles.

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· parents with children ages 6 to 9

o Create a fruit and vegetable chart.

o Talk about the importance of learning to swim.

o Have your child help you cook.

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· parents with children ages 10 to 15

o Monitor your child’s consumption of soda.

o Continue to encourage your child to be active.

o Make sure your child gets enough sleep.

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· parents with children ages 16 to 18

o Keep monitoring activity and eating habits.

o Make family meals a priority.

o Ask your teen about the kinds of physical activity he or she enjoys.

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Wednesday, June 17, 2009

When Kids Spend, Spend, Spend and Want More, More, More

Never spend your money before you have earned it.
--Thomas Jefferson, former U.S. President

“Could I get five bucks?” “A twenty?” “I need money for this.” “I need money for that.” As a parent, you hear these pleas from your children. Some ask for money more often than others, but all kids ask. How can you help your kids live within their means? How do you help your kids avoid overspending? How can you teach your kids not to pester you for money so often? Consider these ideas.

Tips for . . .

all parents

o Be intentional and consistent with money.

o Encourage family members to slow down spending.

o Model savvy spending habits.

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parents with children ages birth to 5

o Create money boxes for your child.

o Help preschoolers recognize different coins.

o Teach young children that once money is spent, it’s gone.

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parents with children ages 6 to 9

o Talk about advertising and its influence.

o Start giving your child an allowance.

o Help your kids learn to save.

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parents with children ages 10 to 15

o Connect your child with adults who need odd jobs done.

o Encourage your son or daughter to save.

o Offer to pay for school activities.

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parents with children ages 16 to 18

o Be clear about your expectations for further education expenses.

o Encourage your child to spend only a part of his or her earnings.

o Introduce new money skills.

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** Visit MVParents.com and read more about Helping Kids Make Good Money Choices, our newest Parenting Matters resource. **

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Excuses, Excuses: When Your Child Is Full of Them

Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure.

--Don Wilder, American speaker


You want your child to do something. Your child doesn’t do it, and when you ask why, she’s full of excuses and reasons why she can’t. All the while you’re thinking that if she just did it instead of making up excuses, it would be done by now. Here’s how to move kids to action.

Tips for

· all parents

o Figure out consequences for when your child refuses to take responsibility.

o Create routines in which responsibility comes first.

o Keep a sense of humor.

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· parents with children ages birth to 5

o Go along with your child’s fantasies and work them into responsibilities.

o Give young children a notice before transition.

o Work responsibilities into your daily routine.

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· parents with children ages 6 to 9

o Create a balance between home and school.

o Make a game about excuses.

o Teach kids the difference between real and lazy excuses.

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· parents with children ages 10 to 15

o Set family guidelines about responsibility.

o Break down responsibilities into smaller pieces.

o Take away a privilege, if needed.

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· parents with children ages 16 to 18

o Congratulate your teen on their accomplishments.

o Make sure everyone in your family is doing their fair share of work.

o Explain that everyone needs a balance of fun and responsibility.

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Friday, May 8, 2009

What Your Kids Are Learning from You

Whether you want to or not, you do serve as a role model.
--Brooks Robinson, American baseball player

What are your kids learning from you? As parents, we hope they’re picking up good habits and learning how to be caring, principled people. Yet, no parent is perfect. We have our strengths and our weaknesses. The better we know ourselves, the better we’ll parent our kids.

Tips for

all parents

o Get to know yourself more. What are you good at? What do you struggle with?

o Be intentional about how you parent.

o Notice how you treat the mistakes you make.

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parents with children ages birth to 5

o Think of your child as a mirror that is reflecting everything you do.

o Pay attention to behaviors your child picks up from other adults.

o Monitor your own stress level.

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parents with children ages 6 to 9

o Don’t be surprised if your child points out your inconsistencies.

o Model strong work habits.

o Get your family involved with service projects.

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parents with children ages 10 to 15

o Stand up for yourself without putting down your child.

o Model positive ways to interact with peers.

o Discuss the learning and growing that you experience.

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parents with children ages 16 to 18

o Begin to discuss the complexities of being human.

o Ask your teenager what makes it difficult to be a teenager.

o Work to be a good role model for your child.

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Monday, May 4, 2009

Discussing Current Events with Your Kids

Discussing Current Events with Your Kids

“There can be no keener revelation of a society’s soul than the way in which it treats its children.”—Nelson Mandela, former South African president

As a parent, you walk a tightrope when it comes to current events. On one hand, you want your child to become more aware of the world. On the other hand, you want to shield your child from horrific news. You actually can do both by considering these ideas.

Tips for

all parents

o Consider subscribing to a daily newspaper or a weekly newsmagazine.

o Consider adding the Happy News to your daily news intake.

o Talk about which aspects of news you find fascinating.

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parents with children ages birth to 5

o Shield your children from bad news.

o Consider subscribing to the Sunday newspaper and reading the comics with your children.

o Teach your children about faraway places.

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parents with children ages 6 to 9

o Ask about the writing curriculum at your local school.

o Find simple chapter books that help your child learn about the world.

o Find online news stories that interest your kids.

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parents with children ages 10 to 15

o Show kids how to find governmental news through TV, radio, online, and other news sources.

o Build on your child’s interests.

o Maintain a balance between paying attention to the news and living your own lives.

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parents with children 16 to 18

o Frequently bring up current events to discuss as a family.

o Find out which newscast your teenager likes the most and recommend watching it periodically.

o Consider subscribing to a newsweekly.

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Thursday, April 23, 2009

Helping Your Child with Standardized Tests

“You can tell who is best at taking tests and going to school, but you can’t tell who the best people are.”
—Barnaby Keeney, American University President

Whether your child is young or older, he or she will have to take standardized tests. Over the past few years, standardized tests have only increased in number, and there’s growing pressure on improving test scores. All this can create a stressful situation for your child, particularly if your child doesn’t do well on standardized tests. Here’s how to help.

Tips for . . .

• all parents

o Find out when standardized tests will be given.

o Make test time a stress-free time.

o Monitor your attitude about standardized tests.

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• parents with children ages birth to 5

o Ask questions about any standardized tests your child may be taking.

o Waiting until age six to start kindergarten is not a sign of failure for your child.

o Learn as much as possible about assessment tools.

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• parents with children ages 6 to 9

o Don’t be surprised if your child is tested when they begin attending school.

o Teach your child to take all aspects of school seriously.

o Incorporate test-taking practices into your child’s homework routine.

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• parents with children ages 10 to 15

o Keep tabs on your child’s attitude toward standardized tests.

o Find out if your child’s school offers practice tests.

o Remind your child that standardized testing is one one part of his or her education.

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• parents with children ages 16 to 18

o See if your local school or community offers test preparation classes.

o Remind your teenager that he or she can take the ACT or SAT more than once.

o Point out that all standardized tests are important, regardless of their effect on grades.

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Wednesday, April 15, 2009

When Kids Lie, Withhold Information, or Deceive You

“I’m not upset that you lied to me. I’m upset that from now on, I can’t believe you.”
—Friedrich Nietzsche, German philosopher

When they’re younger, children’s lies can sometimes be cute and entertaining. But as they get older, their lies can wreak a lot of havoc in your life and in theirs. Being honest—even when it’s hard to tell the truth—is an important lesson to teach your child over and over. The more you model and emphasize living an honest life where your words match your actions, the more kids will see that honest truly is the best policy.

Tips for

all parents

o Talk about lies at a neutral time—when no one has actually done it.

o Choose your battles carefully. Not all lies are the same.

o Admit when you’ve made a mistake.

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parents with children ages birth to 5

o Young children often get their imagination and reality mixed up.

o Pay attention to your reactions when your child tells a “cute” lie.

o Read aloud books about honesty.

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parents with children ages 6 to 9

o Get to know the other adults in your child’s life.

o Notice when your child lies, but don’t make a big deal out of it.

o Talk with your children about the fear of punishment and the temptation to lie.

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parents with children ages 10 to 15

o Explain to your children how you want them to make their own decisions.

o Connect with other parents to keep track of your kids.

o Continue teaching and modeling honest behavior.

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parents with children ages 16 to 18

o Invite your teen to talk to you when he or she is ready.

o Monitor situations so you know when your teenager can handle it on his or her own.

o Discuss current events.

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